Dearly beloved, our company is obtained right here today to make it through this thing labeled as⦠a period finale! Yes, it really is genuine, today’s episode marks the end of absolutely the blockbuster that was S2 of
Wait, Is It A Night Out Together?
In order to commemorate that finishing, just who preferable to come on and talk about the joys and positive results of a long range crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You will know Elise from Lifetime’s delightful queer Christmas time rom-com which come out last year,
Within The Xmas Tree
,
but around these elements, this lady has another subject that will be nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, that is correct, this gleaming twosome was actually birthed from great queer heritage: the long distance crush.
But what is it about the long-distance crush which so attractive to queers around the globe? Could it possibly be the general scarceness of like-minded queers close to you? Perhaps the power to flirt long distance takes many of the stress down? The three folks enter into the whole thing, AND Drew and Elise share some probably also sexy facts about their particular relationship!
And of course there clearly was a game! This week, I make Drew have fun with the game that simply took more than Twitter and Tiktok for some momentary days: « They’re a 10 but⦠» It is a very good time, throughout!
PROGRAM NOTES
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Study Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ See
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it still rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠without a doubt quite persuasive!
+ Will Shortz is indeed the name of this NYT Crossword Editor!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: and we got from the telephone, and then we both hopped from the cellphone two seconds later we’re like, « and so the edge is actually closed, our company is legitimately banned to actually get across the edge. »
Christina
: i am talking about, leading among certainly my favorite vocals memos and or messages I managed to get from Drew, I can’t bear in mind which type it was available in, it was like, « I made this plan of action and then the boundaries tend to be shut. » Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it actually was a real moment.
[theme tune performs]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And I’m Christina.
Drew
: And introducing
Hold Off, Is It A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me obtaining the giggles, together with question this is certainly on everybody’s lips, hold off, was actually this a night out together?
Drew
: We’re at the end of our second season, and I think we solved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion I’m just bringing big finale power, like whenever comedies used to be before a studio audience, and everybody would walk in and there was actually an hour of applause because it had been like, this is the finally, that’s how I’m experiencing. Though to get clear, no one provides applauded me personally yet, hateful. Thank you so much, many thanks. Now i’m liked and used. Drew, that happen to be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this component.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Possibly period three I’ll have the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, i will be an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Guess what happens, i believe when we do another season i do want to have a fun one we throw in by the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you wish to jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have everything today though.
Christina
: Okay, leave them hoping a lot more, i do believe that is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: I am Christina Tucker, i will be additionally an author at Autostraddle, and the internet as a whole. A podcaster, a gay dark lady, and somebody who’s experience pretty jazzy below about mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am actually happy you are flashy and that I’m spicy, or at least I’m planning for the possibility that at some point I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I am not sure, the first half of the film Dune, the spice can come. Cool guide, females, she actually is single. Anyway, i really do have a game title for all of us to tackle about this hollowed day’s our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Basically The traditional, and by classic I mean a casino game that annexed the net and TikTok for two to three weeks, « They Can Be a 10, but⦠»
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: today Drew, i’ll establish some ground principles available, because I’m sure you love a follow through question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: As I say they are a 10, they’re a 10 to you personally in any way that really matters for your requirements, that could be actually, that would be mentally, this is just an individual you think is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, okay, thanks.
Christina
: I do have no circumstances for just what more you in this individual have been undertaking in your internet dating life, you are merely planning have to go with your abdomen and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: fine?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to put where make that clear, right here we go. They may be a 10, however they clap whenever airplane places.
Drew
: i usually decided everyone was also dramatic using this, where it really is like they may be a 10 and this thing means they are head to a two, seriously.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: therefore i’m probably nevertheless provide a pretty ample eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe that is reasonable. I do believe eight may be the appropriate amount of cringe removing for that small action. Okay, this is exactly outstanding beginning. Okay, they may be a nine even so they never ever text you first.
Drew
: And I are unable to ask follow-up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: So I cannot ask, well do they content me back when I text? I might state a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting very first previously, that is crude.
Drew
: Actually ever is actually strange.
Christina
: That’s rough things. All right, these are generally a five but they drive one every errand you have ever endured to run.
Drew
: which is very nice, but i possibly could always⦠If there were five, we’ll provide him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i am aware you like a solamente jaunt in any event, you like an errand run.
Drew
:I mean these days my personal girl Elise did drive me to an errand, and I was actually extremely grateful, but if that was the single thing she performed we mightn’t be in a relationship, that has been just an added very little nice bonus.
Christina
: I think that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: okay, they’ve been a seven nevertheless they just pretend to see your projects.
Drew
: notice facet of that that bothers me could be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we knew it might be.
Drew
: It isn’t really the maybe not checking out it. As long as they didn’t study could work it really is like, I am not that, I would be a tiny bit, it really is like never ever? But it is okay, i possibly could conquer it. Nevertheless they rest in my opinion about this is really what’s strange if you ask me, to make certain that’s going to go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, appropriate. These are typically a three nonetheless gain access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And carry out I get you to go?
Christina
: And you have access, you take advantage of that access, yes.
Drew
: i really could have a solid fling with that six.
Christina
: i do believe you could. It was a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what i am saying, i am slamming it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I love that. They may be an eight but their buddies are straight.
Drew
: Okay, there clearly was some discussion about that, because I think there seemed to be a you may need help. I believe I possibly ended up being on opposite side of many of Autostraddle group which asserted that truly good to simply have direct friends. I wish to say that it’s great, it’s just maybe not the life I lead. All directly friends, that’s going to head to a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to have to trust you on that one, I would only think it is slightly troubling, perplexing.
Drew
: All directly buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re new to queerness and are wanting to meet more queer folks, that is unique of if they’re an established season queer that is love, you know what? I prefer becoming the main one lesbian during my buddy selection of straight folks.
Christina
: Yeah, i’d have the in an identical way in the event it was a dark one who had been like, « I don’t have any dark buddies, » i might wind up as, « what’s happening there? » Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a system sitcom, we can’t have a token person.
Christina
: you should not function as token, you should not do this to yourself. Fine, we’ve got three more. They might be a seven nevertheless they spend all their own time in the gym, continuously weight lifting up and down. I am not sure what individuals carry out at the gym.
Drew
: all their time. I guess this will depend about what matters as time. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump all of them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: but that is great. I suppose it depends largely for me, that I’m maybe not asking a take concern, i am sticking with five, however it depends if you ask me what matters as sparetime.
Christina
: Certain.
Drew
: are we able to view motion pictures with each other, or go out to eat, is the fact that sparetime? Isn’t work time leisure time, or perhaps is it like as soon as we do not have other pursuits?
Christina
: we listen to you, I notice you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick with five.
Christina
: fine. They may be six, but their mommy is actually hotter than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I’m not sure to move up or down.
Christina
: I know, appropriate?
Drew
: I do not consider i really could previously date some body for their⦠It really is like if I’m not drawn to somebody in the first place, I’m not likely likely to be dating all of them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I am not will be love, well, they may become their own talk to hot moms. I do believe I’d point out that they truly are however a six, I’m just planning maybe not refer to them as and that I’m attending phone their unique mom.
Christina
: Yeah, I feel want it’s as you stay equivalent, but maybe I go out with you only a little more than i’d in an effort-
Drew
: which is a point.
Christina
: to obtain some mommy time. Really don’t consider you transform.
Drew
: used to do something really bad that we still think badly pertaining to, which will be that a person questioned me completely, this was actually once I was in college, and that I was not interested, and so I was obvious about that, I became clear I wasn’t curious. However she desired to end up being friends, and I also could inform that she stated she desired to be buddies it ended up being via location-
Christina
: She was actually hoping.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless thing usually all of the woman pals were truly hot and cool, and so I performed continued to be her buddy to be able to go out with her friends. I did not lie about my personal intentions usually, nevertheless nonetheless was not the nicest thing I did so as a 20 yr old.
Christina
: What i’m saying is unfortuitously it really reminds me personally of that episode of
Sex and City
where Carrie’s relationship, in my opinion it is Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but their family members rocks, and she is like, i will do this for somewhat. I am like, yeah, completely, who couldn’t.
Drew
: Carrie was not trying to hook-up along with his family members, the huge difference, however know what? Its okay, we’re all good.
Christina
: A hookup can look like such a thing, i am constantly stating that.
Drew
: that is a really fantastic point.
Christina
: the last one, is actually a three but has actually a beach household.
Drew
: i am about to state a frustrating phrase, but I visited NYU.
Christina
: Horrible to say.
Drew
: something which sucks about myself, which it is planning to appear to be a modest brag, because it’s in fact most likely a character attribute, it sucks as a person checking out the world. We visited a school that’s full of wealthy those who have a variety of amazing beach residences, and all sorts of these other activities, and I also only turned into pals with people who have been here on scholarships. Just, but mostly, I definitely, i did not it’s the perfect time with folks who had coastline houses.
Christina
: You didn’t utilize.
Drew
: Yeah, I really think if they’re a three even so they have a coastline house, they truly are most likely a two. The actual fact⦠I am not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you just can not make that step to work with the ill beach house minute.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am actually hoping would be that my buddies who happen to be rather down-to-earth, great individuals, more of these are gonna still have that brand-new money right after which get beach homes, and then i’m going to be in a position to spend time with my fantastic friends and be at a beach residence. That’s the fantasy where I could obtain the beach residence.
Christina
: this is the dream at the conclusion of the afternoon, it really is new cash and a beach household, that’s all we are in search of. You heard it here first people.
Drew
: i enjoy brand new cash.
Christina
: Love brand-new money.
Drew
: Love brand new cash. Yeah, that was a delight. I’d in fact, I’d truly already been planning to play that online game as it was anything on TikTok, very thanks a lot for making my hopes and dreams come true.
Christina
: I was thinking it will be a great anyone to do, and it had been very enjoyable to create them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to the primary portion on the week, that will be falling for folks who reside in some other metropolitan areas. In fact it is unique of cross country interactions, because cross country connections can begin well into an union, they can continue on into an union, this is basically the need that queer men and women have to consider their destination that they stay and get, no, I’m not going to flirt with your individuals, I’m going to embark on instagram.com in order to find somebody who resides very a distance. So we have actually a, I’m sure we constantly say a very special guest, but also for me personally this really is a very special guest. Do you want to introduce yourself?
Elise
: i might want to present my self. Was we the unique guest?
Drew
: you’re, yes.
Christina
: Baby, definitely.
Elise
: Great, wow, remarkable. My name is Elise Bauman, I’m a star, i am a queer person, and I’m right here now because I’m resting with one of the hosts.
Christina
: imagine which one?
Elise
: Yeah, other podcast is simply the market trying decipher which host I’m resting with. I like that, it’s like a murder secret but-
Christina
: There’s no option to know.
Elise
: There’s no strategy to know. Yeah, performs this create myself a nepotism baby? Usually the sector really works.
Christina
: Yes, that is the way the industry works, hottie.
Elise
: Nice, wonderful.
Christina
: that is it.
Elise
: Wow, maybe i really could get a profession using this.
Christina
: fingertips crossed individually.
Elise
: Nepo child to position, wow, fantastic. I constantly wished to be a nepo infant.
Christina
: i am therefore glad.
Drew
: Yeah, I became just going to point out that for folks who don’t know, really now I am damaging the murder puzzle of it all, but Elise and I have been in a connection, and did start matchmaking through the pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and that I inhabit Los Angeles, which are indeed various metropolises, as they are indeed in various countries.
Elise
: These include undoubtedly, these include undoubtedly.
Christina
: And Drew, not saying you went against your own personal gut, but i actually do feel as though you’re frequently a person who says, why bother with a long distance moment? You will find folks below i could date, exactly why do this to your self? You are sure that it will be tough, you realize it’s going to be hard, exactly why do this? Yet right here you happen to be.
Drew
: See, that is fascinating, because I believe like I always appreciated to possess a bit of both, i recently think I didn’t make long distance types maybe since seriously.
Christina
: possibly that’s all, yeah.
Drew
: But i liked a lengthy range flirt.
Christina
: Genuine.
Drew
: therefore i believe this just stored going. When we began-
Elise
: So the solution, Drew, wasn’t that I became simply irresistible also it ended up being private to me, and that it was very certain in my opinion that I found myself just amazingly enticing you just broke your entire guidelines and you also stated, « i must have any particular one. »
Drew
: i am talking about it’s sort of the answer in a lengthier sense. In the same way so it simply held taking place. And then our close friends on the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, exactly who we accustomed accept, as some of you may know, I would personally always be like, I’d be attempting to date people while in the pandemic in Los Angeles therefore the encompassing regions of l . a .. Then they’d generate enjoyable of me because i might occasionally you need to be love, « after all, I could only you will need to date Elise Bauman. » I was usually, « after all, {this person|this i